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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce or open marriage/consensual nonmonogamy.  Cheaters are weak, lacking integrity, and they are liars. [/quote]

The partner has consented to nonmonogamy through their actions.[/quote]

Revenge adultery isn't consensual nonmonogamy. Not having sex with someone isn't consent to cheat. What an asinine thing to say. [/quote]

That's not "revenge" and it's weird to think it is.

If that's really your concern, then just keep it a secret from the partner.[/quote]

Keeping secrets from your partner is low-integrity behavior, so no, I don't do that either. And yes, "I didn't get what I wanted, so I'm going to cheat on you" is revenge adultery. You're butthurt and you're going to do a thing you know would hurt your partner if they knew, in secret, and you'll justify it because you think they did a thing first. Textbook revenge: you did that so I'll do this.

Nobody owes you sex, even in a marriage, and if you're not happy with the amount of sex you're getting, the burden falls to you to fix it or leave. If you cheat, you're the problem.[/quote]

It's not revenge. It's not motivated by a desire to hurt the other person. In many cases, one of the objectives is to keep them from the finding out and being hurt.[/quote]

This is like saying driving drunk isn’t motivated by a desire to hurt anybody.  No, but it’s still abhorrently irresponsible and selfish. [/quote]

Well said. Whether you want to hurt someone or not, you can't pretend you don't see the potential to hurt someone.[/quote]

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