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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who is constantly complaining about her life and husband. Occasionally venting to a friend is one thing but a one trick pony always complaining is a different beast.

It gets old so I remind her that she doesn’t have to be the helpless damsel. If she doesn’t like my response after hearing her complain for the hundredth time, she can change her life or stop complaining. Some of us actually put in the work to solve our problems so the perpetual victimhood gets old real quick. [/quote]

If a friend is complaining too much, especially about the same issues over and over, I will let them know I've reached my max on issue and that while I support them in finding a solution, I can't serve as sounding board on it any more.

IME, people who give unsolicited advice and are very pushy about it (OP describes very aggressive advice-giving and a friend who *demands* OP follow her advice and report back with updates on whether she has taken the steps OP has been ordered to take) are hammers in search of a nail -- they will view any comment or disclosure as the presentation of a problem for them to solve. So it's not about complaining "too much." You might not even be complaining at all. You might be making an offhanded observation or just letting your friend know why you were late or why took longer to text back than she expected, but they will seize it as an opportunity to tell you how to change your life. [/quote]

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