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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PS - Shibari is my kink, which I haven’t often heard considered vanilla- but I’m sure you know more than me. [/quote]

I'm sure I do. Shibari is the cannabis of kinks: it's a gateway kink. It's usually vanilla with sprinkles, unless you're talking suspensions, or other kinks + ropework.

It's pretty though, I'll give it that. Nice knotwork is gorgeous, especially in sisal (and not whatever soft nylon you probably use).[/quote]

Suspension. Bunny. Stop with the kink flex. It’s one thing to enjoy pegging- I was game to try! It’s another when it’s the actual requirement al the time. It doesn’t make him a bad person because though he presented as hetero his kink means I assume a role that doesn’t turn me on. I’m a sub. I’m not a good fit for a man who wants to be pegged and doesn’t reveal Grindr anon sex when he calls himself “bi curious”. You’re curious the first time, maybe two! But cruising gay sex off the internet and thinking it’s “not sexual” and you’re “not attracted to men you just love a D in your ass” means you’re not the lover or partner I want. That isn’t homophobic, friend. [/quote]

Sweetcheeks, we are not friends. Don't come at me with some sarcastic "I'm sure you know more than me" and then get butthurt when it turns out I very much do. Quit telling people how their sexuality should work so that you don't have to stop topping from the bottom and adjust your limited view.

And no, pegging doesn't mean someone's gay. It just doesn't. Continuing to argue that it does strongly suggests you're homophobic af. If you're not into it, you're not into it. You can stop there. All this other bullshit judgment you're spewing is a story about you, not him.[/quote]

You probably don’t have many friends, do you?

Whatever it makes me- vanilla or homophobic ior a mere voyeur giggling about my “cannabis of kink”- but replies like yours show me how republicans rose to power once again. If you disagree with someone, or if you think someone is wrong- it might serve you to ask them questions rather than call them names.

I think anyone who has a kink and is dating on a vanilla sight should disclose it if it’s the driving focus or only way they want to have sex. Most in the kink community have been amazing in terms of respect, consent, clarity, testing. This guy was an aberration and it left a bad taste in my mouth- honestly it felt like I’d been groomed and I hold some resentments.

Anyway I should be more careful with my words. This guy lied to me and put my sexual health at risk and of course men who share pegging with a caring spouse may or may not be gay. I could see how a couple could involve into various types of “kink” or sex over the years. This was someone I just met. He presented as hetero. He lied about his sexual past with men- labeling himself “curious” when he was in fact actively pursuing couples and cruising random sex. And it was frustrating because if he’s just been honest we could have parted friends and with no hard feelings.

I apologize though if my projections about this one person caused me to be careless with my words.

Good chat. [/quote]

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