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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 2 teenage girls.  They are not mean.  They are kind and quiet girls.  They intentionally avoid mean girls.  From my observation, it seems that most of the "mean girl" behavior is in the most popular circles which my girls are not part of.

I will say this.  My girls are not proactively mean but they have developed a survival instinct to fight back against mean girls that pick on other girls, basically learning to fight fire with fire.  Even though I'm proud of them for doing that, it makes me sad at the same time.  [/quote]

OP here. My DD has always been included in most things in preschool and early elementary and I guess these people may become the popular girls. My daughter is pretty and fairly good at most things she tries, just like her brothers. She goes to public school and we are on the high end of income and house. Being rich in public doesn’t seem to help her socially. Some girls seem to get jealous or mean about material items our family cares nothing about. Girls may put things down for no reason. Ugh. I hate this.[/quote]

I am going to say that if your DD gives off the vibe you do here, it doesn't surprise me that girls are mean... but you are very much misunderstanding why. You come across like exactly the parent you are criticizing. Your daughter is pretty. Your daughter is good at things. So is your son. You are rich comparatively. You have a nice house. You are sad that being rich doesn't help her socially(?!?). Girls are jealous of your kid's (implicitly) super fancy stuff that you are too rich to care about. Like... you probably don't intend to, but you absolutely come across as the problem.[/quote]

My daughter is generally included by most of the girls despite them being mean to her and others.

I only wrote that we have a nice home stating it does not seem to give her any social advantages. If anything, it seems to be negative. She has a very well decorated room with a closet full of nice clothes she mostly does not wear.

When my boys’ friends came over, we had a 5000sf basement that they loved playing in. We always had the latest video game or toys so they enjoyed coming over to play. They raided our pantry of snacks and loved it. [/quote]

DP but now I think OP is a troll. The PP's point was a good one -- OP seems to focus a lot on their material wealth and good looks and maybe this is translating to how other kids and families interact with their family. What is the response? We had a basement twice the size of most people's entire house filled with the latest video games and toys and stocked with snacks and they enjoyed that.

Like no one is this tone deaf. Right?[/quote]

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