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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you talked to a divorce lawyer now that his income has gone up? Maybe you could renegotiate it.

Also "it was worth some tradeoffs I had to make for my own" - what sort of tradeoffs did you make? It sounds like you did may have made too many, frankly.

Here's one thing I will say. My mom grew up poor, managed to go to college and marry my dad who had some family money and a successful career. I always felt like on some level she was jealous of me, for having so much more than she did growing up. I remember her once sneering at me, "poor little rich girl" when I was stressing out about my law school gpa limiting my ability to find the top flight jobs I wanted. She made a comment about how I probably would not have gotten in were it not for my dad. Not sure - my LSAT and gpa were slightly above the median for the school.

Anyway, try not to let a jealousy dynamic creep into your relationship with your kids.[/quote]

I won’t go into detail about the tradeoffs, but I decided I would rather have less money for myself in order to get more things for my children, especially long-term, non-standard things in our settlement that can’t be unwound in a couple of years on Ex’s whims and are a hedge against an early death.

Ex will live forever though. [/quote]

It sounds like you got plenty and also that you have primary custody which would mean you get plenty of cs. Why do you have the kids so much more? It is unusual for a judge to award less than 50/50 these days. Was it a financial play? At any rate, maybe your ex feels like he has to do fancy things with them because he isn’t spending time with them in their daily lives.  You do sound jealous and that you are operating from a scarcity mindset. [/quote]

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