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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not a parenting problem it’s a husband problem.  You are articulating it - you are lonely and bored. You’re raising kids alone most of the time and he’s providing the money.  I had this type of arrangement when my kids were young and turns out I didn’t like it.  I even said what you are saying - I like my husband when I’m with him.  I just didn’t want to be raising kids alone.  I want to do it with a partner.

We talked about it for years and he finally got out of the job situation (not an attorney).  It helped a lot.

[b]To the people saying well don’t marry an attorney.  It’s hard to know what it’s going to feel like until you’re in it.  I think some people genuinely don’t mind this type of lifestyle.  And you love the person so you take the leap of faith.[/b][/quote]

Not all attorneys work in intense jobs.  I went to a T14 and I’ve worked for the federal government my entire career and frankly, being present for my kids and having down time is worth it to me.  I’ve never even really felt stressed aside from this year. 😂[/quote]

I only lasted 5 years at a firm before I moved into the public sector. I don’t practice, I do regulatory work and don’t have very many surprises anymore. But I do still have significant work week expectations as a manager as does my husband who does IT, as well as wknd emergencies. It takes both of us as well as carpooling with all the other parents in our same boat to get it all done. In a lot of ways it takes a village around here.

Regardless of who is responsible for getting the kid to a sport/ortho/doctor I put it on both our calendars. I suggest doing the same and sitting down Sunday night and asking which thing your H thinks he can drive to that week. He should be able to handle one night of coming home at a reasonable time and participating as a parent. That should not all be on you regardless of who is the breadwinner. That is not an unreasonable expectation. [/quote]

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