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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious about what you're hearing from your freshman and if they're happy and feeling connected. 
Mine is not and I am trying not to worry. I know it's early. 
This is an historically very social kid who is finding that a large number of other girls are just not nice and will outright reject invitations to meet (dinner, coffee, etc)
Roommate is having a similar experience per the roommate's mom who I reached out to in desperation (wanting to know if what my kid was sharing was true or embellished for sympathy or ?) Turns out relayed the exact same things without me even suggesting them. 
UGH.

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I can tell you from the parent boards that there are a quite a few people posting with similar concerns.  The advice is always pretty similar - they need to look into joining clubs that have both a social aspect and an activity where you all meet at least one time a week if not more. If they missed the activity fair, they should go to the list of organizations and follow-up with a few. Having repeated exposure to the same people that have a common interest with designated time to be social without your kid needing to plan the outing is helpful.  At my one kid’s school there are one or two really social club sports that parents mention as a way to get involved. Patents will also mention the service fraternities, service organizations, certain religious clubs/groups, a female workout group, board game group etc.  I would recommend they look into at least one activity that doesn’t cut people either via application or competitive tryout. Both of my kids met their future roommates thru a club they joined at school.

I will add that it helps if they try a few things to see what sticks. Also jobs that have a group of students that see each other often and have time to get to know each other and study groups (thru the university or on their own) are the other ways people make close friends. My kids don’t have majors where a persistent study group is common and their jobs on campus didn’t really lend themselves to getting to know other students - but I definitely heard of people meeting their friends (and significant other) that way.[/quote]

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