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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's weird that when HE set up the location sharing in the family - he didn't even ask you but set you up and sent the prompt but didn't automatically share his.

At minimum I think it's hypocritical - but not going to lie, it would bother me that once asked, he's now "uncomfortable" and it would make me question more. Is he actually where he says he is, is he cheating, does he spend a lot of alone time out of the house outside of work, etc. It could be none of those things, but tbh if you have a fundamental "location sharing with spouse is weird" he wouldn't have prompted you to in the first place. Because knowing where you are is also a level of control (hence kids location sharing) and he can confidently do whatever wherever knowing where you are at all times.

I would turn off my location. I would also do some digging. This is me just being real - it doesn't sound nice but the "no" would have me very bothered. May sound paranoid, but something doesn't sit right.

Does he share his device? Are you allowed to use his phone at all to answer or make a call or look at a map, etc if needed? Does he turn the phone over all the time in your presence? [/quote]

PP here and I'll add - I don't share my location and neither does DH because I do think it's weird. Big brothery in a way I can't explain but infantilizes me I guess - I'm not a child - you're not my keeper but those feelings are also deeply rooted in childhood trauma and my real need for independence and a feeling of autonomy. I don't advise others to feel the same and I understand why couples do - I just won't. But it's because I feel that way that I would never ask DH to - only exception are special trips like a vacay where we separate as a family in an unfamiliar location. That said, I can pick up his phone and use it, although I don't know the password and have never asked for it, but he will unlock and hand it to me with no issues if mine is dead, etc.

Technology blurs some boundaries that some of us didn't grow up with so navigating can be a challenge. All that to say - something is still not right with the dynamic OP posted. [/quote]

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