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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is like a man saying my love language is sexy clothing and lingerie. I want her to show me she cares by putting thought into what I would want to see her in and wearing what I want her to wear and when I want her to wear it. If she doesn’t do that, then she clearly doesn’t care about me or love me and it’s disappointing because a good girlfriend would want to please her man and do what is important to him in a thoughtful way. [/quote]

For some men having s sexy woman who takes care of herself is a non-negotiable.  They would never date a fat slob who never wears make up.  OP is a materialistic person who expects gifts - why should she compromise and accept a someone who doesn't share her values?  I don't share her values, but I still thing she should get what she needs from a relationship with no judgment.  I get what I need from mine and find it fulfilling.  Everyone should have that [/quote]

Disagree. Gifts giving has been a love language and way to express affection since beginning of civilization. He was doing it before and now stopped. He could have gotten flowers at $20 at Safeway to show his affection.
It’s not materialistic for OP to feel that way. [/quote]

If the way you want someone to express affection is primarily through trinkets, then yes, you are materialistic. I’d argue acts of service is the way affection has been expressed since the dawn or civilization.

I agree with the poster who say she should look for that, though. But I’ll judge because shes a 40-something who already material expressions of affection in her marriage and same that wasn’t enough. [/quote]

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