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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Troll [/quote]

Doesn't seem like a troll to me.  Sounds like a frustrated parent but also a parent who is likely coming to terms with the fact that their child won't get to the level they were hoping they would with all these interventions.  It's still a difficult thing to process.  [/quote]

Hopefully there are better programs available and OP should certainly look into it. BUT to the extent the issue is behavioral I think taking a closer look at what is going on is important. A classroom observation or several to really understand what is going on could be helpful to reset. In my experience the tenor of the communication coming home from school created an impression of total dysfunction that was not really the case. Schools just tend to communicate in an escalated manner and don’t communicate the positives or overall picture. [/quote]

OP here. I've had pretty good relationships with his classroom teachers and special educators. I've had some classroom visits, and if anything, the situation is worse than they say. Completely ignores most instructions or questions and wanders around the room frequently. With 1:1 attention, he might get half-way a worksheet/project, but with absolutely no regard to doing it correctly.

I've never before met anyone in my life who literally does not care what you say or think. Whether you're mad or happy toward him, he doesn't care at all. I wish I was exaggerating. Even rewards don't work on him.[/quote]

If the rewards aren’t working then you have a motivation issue not a learning issue and that won’t be addressed in mainstream. I’d call an IEP, hire a lawyer, take your team with you, and fight for adequate services. You’re doing him a disservice as it stands. [/quote]

Calling a meeting doesn't help if there isn't an ask. We've been working with his therapists and doctors for years trying to find something that might help. The mainstream setting isn't good, but the guidance we've gotten is that a self-contained program would be worse for him.[/quote]

Who has given this guidance?  It's possible they are right, and what you need to do is to explore increasing and changing the kinds of supports he is getting in gen ed.  It's also possible that they are wrong.

Rewards not working is not a sign that it's a motivation issue, and even if it were, you can work on motivation in a mainstream setting. [/quote]

His BCBA, speech therapist, occupational therapist, developmental pediatrician, and child psychiatrist.

They might all be wrong, but they have a lot of experience working with him.[/quote]

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