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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her the best way for them to build their life together for strong long-term prospects is for her to get a college degree. He can still do his thing, she can do Etsy on the side or whatever, but as a couple they should prioritize increasing her earning potential by her getting the degree. She can do both things: be with him and get her degree. If she’s receptive to data, you can give her some statistics on earnings with and without a college degree, etc.

Also tell her to make sure she’s on solid, reliable birth control because children now would not fit into a good long-term plan “for them.”

My heart would break if this happened to my niece, and I agree with the PP who said anything you say will land differently. But don’t criticize him, don’t criticize her decision, but instead frame everything in a way that emphasizes the positive and the necessity of the path you are suggesting.

I agree with the PP who said the parents should not give her any financial support other than health insurance.

Can you tell us more about the guy?[/quote]

I don't know much about the guy other than he is her age, and is doing a trade (think plumbing or blacksmith). No college interest/potential on his part. She says he is smart, nice, perfect etc. I am assuming he is just a naive teenager much like herself. [/quote]

He's doing a trade which is not bad.
Licensed plumbers can make bank. It does require math skills, advanced planning and problem solving abilities.
I think blacksmiths went the way of the Auto-gyro.[/quote]

I think it’s probably blacksmith like the popular reality show Forged in Fire.

Interestingly enough there was an article about the need for skilled horseshoe people (which is probably what you think of a blacksmith).[/quote]

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