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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cost of living is so high that we've to subsidize young professionally employed adults so they can have similar lifestyle as ours. It looks like we ourselves won't be able to maintain this lifestyle after retirement.[/quote]

Does this bother you? It bothers me so much I have considered divorcing over it, as I don't know if there is any other path to retirement for me. We have retirement funds which would be enough for 95% of Amerucans to retire comfortably, but DH will never not overspend. First it was on his parents and other housing related stuff we don't actually need, now its still his parents and our adult kids. [/quote]

Wouldn’t bother me. They are our kids and we love them.[/quote]

It wouldn’t bother you that you jeopardize your own retirement to subsidize your kids?

I’m not sure you really were responding to what PP was saying.[/quote]

What does this mean?    I’d rather less less comfortably to make sure my kids got a good education through masters.  I don’t need trips, a fancy house or things.   I what makes me happy is their happiness and success. [/quote]

OP here. I love our kids so much I want them to be independent capable adults.

The issue with the adult kid stuff is that it's the next wave of DH overspending and making himself a martyr. This all started over 30 years ago. I thought there was an end in sight as his parents are getting old fast now, but now there's a new wave with adult kids. Then there will be grandkids. He will never be able to retire.  There will always be financial stress in our marriage. [/quote]

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