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[quote=Anonymous]OP you sound rational, kind and clear headed about valuing your independence and a clean break over any financial gain. Good for you.

What I also read is that you're applying rational expectations and thinking to a scenario where the other person is an alcoholic.

The drama, emotion, manipulation, "woe is me", yadda yadda yadda I read as a function of alcoholism. He may or may not be mourning the marriage. He is almost certainly simply an alcoholic.

Perhaps if you view these delays and tactics as a symptom of alcoholism, rather than emotional pain you have anything to do with, it will be easier for you to manage it.

Send him a letter and tell him if he doesn't take demonstrable action within X weeks you will be getting an attorney to handle it for you. You don't need to say anything more.

Then do it. Go get an attorney. Pay her/him to do this. Direct them to file for the necessary action AND for recovery of costs. Listen to them if they suggest asking for anything more.

It is worth some money to get yourself legally/financially fully unentangled. And he may not be capable of handling this without legal consequences. In fact, even then he may not be capable but if that's the case then he's on a likely downward slide of functionality - so that's all the more reason you need to get fully out asap. It will only get worse and you cannot have your credit rating suffer the consequences of his drinking.

I'm sorry. It is awful to try to extricate oneself from connections w/ people you love/d who are so sick w/ addictions. [/quote]

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