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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you handle it when a friend changes dramatically due to change in life circumstances? Basically her husband's business took off, which is wonderful, but she has become a different person - constantly talking about what they are buying, spending, traveling, doing to their house, where they are buying another vacation house, how many tennis lessons she has this week to fill the hours while kids are at school, what her plans are for plastic surgery, her recent botox and filler, her new favorite place to order designer workout gear, etc etc. I know you will think I am just jealous and fair enough - it would be wonderful to never have to worry about money or working again but this is different. I feel like I have essentially lost a dear friend because she never talks about anything real or relatable, and when I try to share the types of conversation and interaction we used to enjoy together, she always manages to bring the conversation back to what they are buying/spending/doing. It is exhausting and makes me sad. I'm not sure whether is is worth being honest about feeling distant, or trying to salvage the friendship, or just let it go? I don't know if it is a phase or just her new personality. Has anyone been through something like this with a friend?[/quote]

Op, i posted ‘this’ (same thing with my own friend) about 4 years ago.

Yes, it was like, their full time job to spend the money. I know they were saving too.

But I mean, they were 150% all in for upgrading everything in their life, and meanwhile I was like “I shouldn’t afford a $300 dresser for my kid, so he shares a big dresser with his sibling.” It was better for us at the time to forgo things so we could save.

And there was not a lot to talk about anymore. It was sad.[/quote]

Me again. I didn’t read the thread, now I am going back and reading. Yes about the renovations talk. The first while, I was really interested in their kitchen and bathroom. She would tell me about pitfalls, and it was like ‘mental note for me if I ever upgrade one of these.’ It wasn’t boring.

But then you’re ready to talk together about something else, and 1. Her stuff was like “I have so many boxes to break down. We also got this entryway feature. We are investing x in our kids sports and personal savings. We are thinking about doing this to our pool deck.” And my stuff was like “I’m a little bored lately, the kids and I went to the park everyday, it was fun. We found this cool thing on the trail. Problem with x y or z” that money fixes and her suggestion was .. just that.  When it’s like, I have 30k of wishes that money fixes, that’s why I don’t fix these things.[/quote]

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