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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The responses to OP are wild.

OP, if your kids ask for help, help them. Otherwise I would assume they've got it handled. [/quote]

My kids would never ask, even though their income is a fraction of ours.

We'd offer to pay.[/quote]

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Parents are happy when kids are thoughtful, not entitled and not greedy. [/quote]

Asking for help isn’t entitled.

Dangling money over an adult child and making demands (attend this wedding or else!) is greedy and entitled.[/quote]

Eh, I'm a person who's parents offer to pay for flights (and who often takes them up on it) and I would NEVER ask them to pay for something if there was any way I could swing it. It's not how my family is wired - a kid asking for money is seen as need/desperation but parents offering (whether or not the kids could otherwise afford it) is smoothing the path for the family to be together. Offering to pay for a flight isn't a summons, though, and we can always say no.[/quote]

My family is the same.  Asking for money would make my parents feel like they failed.  Instead, they will leave behind a $20m+ estate, much of it going to charity.  But all of us kids are doing well on our own, and we all treat our parents when we go to dinner now.  It's a source of pride for them that we can.  They paid for our school-related expenses - law, medical, flight, etc.  Not cheap, and starting out in high-paying careers with no debt is a huge advantage for which we are all grateful.

They never paid for big trips like weddings, and I have a close relationship with them and lots of gratitude for what they did do. [/quote]

Do you think your parents would have covered expenses if any of the kids didn't choose high paying careers?[/quote]

no, but they'd give me a place to stay if I were homeless, or pay for a lifesaving procedure if I needed help. [/quote]

Gotcha- I wasn't sure how your comment about starting off as a high earner connected to your point about them not paying.  Sounds like it didn't.[/quote]

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