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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At that age I would start with having them order their own drinks/meals/ice cream. 
Politely and with eye contact.

Ask them to find an item in the store in a different aisle and bring it back to you. Help cook meals [/quote

[b]At 7 you START letting them order for themselves? Why aren't they doing this as soon as they can talk and be understood? [/b]You want food, you ask for it. [/quote]

I thought that was odd as well. My kids have been ordering for themselves basically as soon as they could talk. They went into Cumbl the other day while I waited in the car and commented on these teenagers in front of them who didn't seem to know how to order and were acting all nervous about it. My kids are 10.

When we travel we let them figure out how to get to the connecting flight (obviously not at the risk of missing it, but we will let them go down the wrong terminal if we have time).

They opine on meals (everyone is responsible for picking one dinner a week) and write down the ingredients on the grocery list after checking what we have. I generally do online grocery ordering but if we go to the store I don't participate much at all. They can get the cart, find the items, check them out, and pay (with my card).

They are responsible for helping with the dogs, including walking, feeding, checking water, grooming, and letting them out.

They have to pick up their stuff around the house at the end of every day and they are responsible for keeping their rooms clean (i.e. no clothes on the ground). I still do everyone's laundry because I don't trust them to handle stains properly but they are responsible for having everything in their hampers the right way (i.e. shirts not inside out).

They don't clean the house because we have cleaners but they do wipe the kitchen counters, vacuum, and do the dishwasher (stuff that gets done daily/multiple times a week).

When we go shopping for stuff for them (clothes, skincare, etc.) I make them check out and pay plus bag the stuff if not offered by the cashier. That's how I learned that you have to be 18 to buy a lighter because one of them wanted one (to live downstairs) for their candles - they weren't able to pay for the transaction because of that. They are also responsible for returns whether in person or mailed. If they're getting a birthday present for a friend, they have to find it and buy it whether online or in person (not that they have to pay for it, but they know how to navigate online checkout when I read my card number out loud).

This summer they Door Dashed something one day so now they know how to do that and they know how tipping works.

Hopefully some of that helps, OP. I think in this day and age it's important to learn how to do things both in real life and online because those are both skills they'll need going forward. Learning that the "price" of an item online isn't the actual price if there is shipping has been eye-opening![/quote]

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