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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’ve come to the (somewhat sobering) realization that the best environment for our kids is one with a very narrow range of academic abilities, minimal exposure to trauma, and [b]few—if any—single-parent households[/b]. For us, that also means avoiding situations where teachers and classmates are frequently managing unresolved behavioral or social-emotional challenges, including some of the more difficult or disruptive neurodivergences.

I fully respect that the public system must educate and support every child, and I believe in that mission. But we also had to be honest about what works best for our own children’s learning and well-being. For us, that meant finding a school where those kinds of distractions are almost nonexistent, so the focus stays on rigorous academics and a calm, orderly classroom environment.[/quote]

YIKES[/quote]

I am unclear why the [b]PP's preference for two-parent households is any more "yikes"[/b] than their preference for kids who are neurotypical, have not been exposed to trauma, and who have are mostly at or above grade level academically.

And I'm not judging. I totally get where this person is coming from and there are days when I feel this way too. The thing for me is that I grew up with a lot of trauma and definitely had unresolved social emotional issues as a kid, and maybe neurodivergence as well. So I'm never going to to choose my kids school to avoid people like that, because that's me -- I will never not have a place in my heart for those kids even as I'm raising my kid to not have to BE one of those kids. But I also understand why other parents seek to avoid kids like this, even as it breaks my heart because it makes me think about how often I was rejected by other family's growing up and didn't really even understand why. I didn't know that I was problematic because it was all I knew. I didn't get that until I was adult and then retrospectively understood why sometimes I never got invited back to a classmates house, or why I was excluded from certain communities.

But the idea that wanting to avoid kids from single-parent households is over the line, but wanting to avoid kids with other kinds of problems is understandable ignores the fact that no kid chooses any of that. It just happens to you. You're a child. [/quote]

Because it's racist and classist. They don't mean ANY single parents, they mean poor black ones. [/quote]

But not all divorced parents are poor and black. And not all black families are single parent homes. I'm sorry, I don't get this. Also this is an anonymous board, I think if the PP meant they didn't want their kids going to school with poor kids (which in DC means poor and black because of the city's demographics) they would just say that.

Also in DC if someone is sending their kids to a charter, I assume they are partly motivated by wanting to send their kids to a school where the population of poor black kids is at least smaller than it is at their IB DCPS. Two Rivers is the poster child for this because it's not offering some specialized program like Montessori or immersion, and for a long time its family population was drawn from the JOW and L-T boundaries, both (at the time) Title I schools with large at risk populations. Then L-T lost it's Title I status and now you rarely see families IB for L-T choosing Two Rivers.

Not saying it's good, but I'd rather people be honest about it than pretend it's not what is happening. A parent who is willing to admit they are trying to avoid poor families, single parent homes, kids with severe disabilities, and other at risk factors is at least telling you the truth.[/quote]

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