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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your daughter told another girl, to her face, that she’s fat and should off herself? This is truly disturbing and she needs a psych eval immediately. This goes well beyond girls will be girls. Your child needs serious help! [/quote]

No, this does not go beyond what is normal. Children have been bullying other children for all of eternity unfortunately. It's part of being human. There will never be a time on earth when children don't bully other children, no  matter how hard we try to teach them not to or how closely we supervise them. So make sure your DD knows she's not evil, too, OP. She has to decide which side she wants to be on. (Being good to others, obviously.)

I had friends who did this to another camper in our cabin. The effects on the other girl were major and lasted for years (probably a lifetime but I don't know what happened to her). The effect on my friend, the main bully, also lasted for years -- a lifetime, because I did keep in touch with her. This was not the only bullying she did. She was a bully throughout high school, too. She could get away with it because she was really cute and super popular. But as an adult, she was SO SO SO SO ashamed of her behavior. It really haunted her.

Tell your DD this will negatively affect her and her "friend" too (if it wasn't actually your DD who did the bullying). Tell her that the other girl will remember her forever, and that this will haunt your DD for the rest of her life and she needs to never do it again -- for her own good. The rest -- the compassion for the victim and maturity and understanding of social dynamics and regret -- will come with time. But also tell her she's not a monster. Sorry to all those who think otherwise.[/quote]

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