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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a mom, with 5 kids 10 to 16, who often organizes group activities for her older kids and several teens in their large friend group. My teens have participated in some of these activities and I have helped with transportation for their friends. This [b]mom typically stays,[/b] while I and other parents drop off ([b]at her insistance.)[/b] They go to movies, out to eat, the mall, etc. Anyway, I overheard one of the friends refer to her "mom" and then they were huddled together talking. I asked my dcs about this and quite a few of these kids call her "mom." My kids do not do that. Is this weird that she is acting as "mom" to these kids, who all have actual involved mothers? What does dcum think of this?[/quote]

Not the biggest deal, but slightly weird that she insists others drop off but she always stays, unless there are special needs. But that and getting people to call her mom suggests she's really making this her personality. I wouldn't say it's necessarily creepy but more annoying. [b]I wonder if as the kids get older she'll try to be cool mom who lets the kids drink, etc[/b].[/quote]
You hit the nail on the head of what I was thinking, pp. There are no special needs kids in this group. The thing which strikes me is that it seems like she is trying to establish herself as the group mom when every one of these kids has involved parents. Another pp who compared it to calling someone else's spouse "honey" also struck on the feeling I get from this mom.[/quote]

Pp. I would keep an eye on it but it's one of those things that if you make too much of it, you're the one who will seem crazy because this woman seems so lovely and involved.

I actually wonder how she would react if you started insisting she drop off or insisting you stay instead of drop off (i think its rude of her to do this with teens if everyone else is dropping off). [/quote]

I think the insisting you drop off kids and she doesn't drop her own off is very weird. In other words, she meets people at a third location and tells you to leave? Is it possible she is just trying to be nice by telling you you don't need to stay? [/quote]

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