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[quote=Anonymous][size=9] [/size][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At 6, it's way too young to tell.

Our son was exactly like your child. At 6, he had Zero interest in sports, and no interest in being active. We took him from one rec team to another hoping he'd find a sport he likes and at the end, we gave up. He was also chubby and we worried about the health ramifications of the lack of activity.

During Covid, when everything was shut down and he was going stir crazy at home, my husband would take him to an outdoor tennis court nearby that was open and hit balls with him. Something clicked then.

Today at 16, he's a competitive tennis player and he's very fit.

All to say that at 6, it's way too young to tell. I think also what happened is that he realized that a lot of friendships in his class were centered around sports and he did not want to miss out.

Try to have your son try different sports and most of all, try to make it fun. Don't label a child as "athletic" or "non athletic", especially not in front of him as it'll become a self fulfilling prophecy. Above all, make sure he's having fun along the way.[/quote]

This sounds like my son.  Tried t-ball and soccer.  Zoned out in tball, ran around enthusiastically but kind of aimlessly in soccer.  Did running in ES and MS b/c I coached MS track.   But in 4th grade something clicked with basketball, and by 8th grade he was practicing for hours almost every day. By HS was a standout player on excellent teams, and people talked about how lucky he was to be genetically a good athlete.  LOL.  [/quote]

How long ago was this? It was either decades ago or your kid is abnormally tall and had a growth spurt. Nobody can [b]just randomly start practicing for hours per day in middle school[/b] and become a “stand out” basketball player anymore. They are 10 years behind the travel and privately trained intense hyper competitive peers by that point.[/quote]

Not sure how you got that from me saying my kid got into basketball in [b]4th[/b] grade.  FWIW, DS started working with a trainer in 4th and started AAU in 5th. Played on 6 AAU teams between 5th and HS, being recruited each time to a better team or a bigger role ending on a Nike team that people on this forum like to talk about.  And DS was recruited to a top DMV basketball high school as an 8th grader.

So yeah, basketball kids in the DMV are hyper competitive and intense.  But  parents who get super excited that little Larlo made the extra hyper elite AAU 4th grade team are often disappointed by high school.  None of the “nationally ranked” kids on DS’s 8th grade AAU team were nationally ranked by sophomore year.  Kids grow a ton between MS and HS, put on a ton of muscle, and for many big skinny kids, their  speed and aggressiveness catches up with their height.

The point of my post was that parents have no idea when their kid is 6 what their athletic future holds.  Frankly, I thought the coaches who told us that DS would be a very good basketball player were nuts — including the HS coach who recruited him.  But they were right, and if I’d listened to the parents who thought my kid wasn’t athletic when he was in 2nd and 3rd grade picking weeds in the outfield or randomly running around a soccer field, we’d never have found out. [/quote]

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