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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP we had a similar experience with my parents' financial planner. Guy spent 30 minutes telling my mom that memory care was a scam and unreliable but then he didn't even offer an alternate suggestion. Just told her to talk to an elder care attorney to figure out Medicaid eligibility. And I'd bet a million dollars that he gets kick backs from the attorney for references.

They're all a bunch of slime balls C who don't understand the reality of elder care. It's all just numbers on a screen. When I previously brought up that my parents don't have enough money to cover extensive memory care or skilled nursing (my grandma's side of the family all had dementia), he brushed it off saying "most people don't live long once they reach that stage." Which may be true, but hoping to die quickly is not what I want them to base their financial decisions on.[/quote]

It’s not the lawyer’s fault that you asked for advice outside his scope and got referred to a more specialized practitioner. The rules on referral fees typically require them to track actual value added. I know a lot of attorneys and I don’t know anybody who pays just for referral.

I think the marketing term “memory care” is one of the most cynical things ever devised by the caretaking sales industry. Nobody is getting any “care” for their “memory.”  They’re getting a more specialized form of custodial care adapted to the unique challenges of persons with dementia. I don’t think the idea of specialized, tailored care is a scam, but I’m not sure that a “memory care” unit is the only place to find it.

If you’re concerned about needing help with care costs, the best person to consult is an experienced attorney affiliated with the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys. Medicaid rules are complex, subject to change, and present catastrophic traps for the unwary. This is not a place for crowdsourcing, amateur night or non-expert advice. [/quote]

OP here attorney we consulted was on this list[/quote]

I thought you consulted with a “financial planner” and got referred to an attorney.

Was it the attorney you felt “brushed off” by?  If so, why?

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Think you’re responding to a PP. OP and we visited elder care attorney who told us memory care was a scam and we could get on Medicaid now. That attorney was on the list a PP posted.[/quote]

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