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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you're getting a rare instance of unanimous response in DCUM. Listen up , and do right by your kid.[/quote]

I'll be the outlier and say I don't agree. Why are the other siblings prohibited from a trip because they've 'used up' all the one-on-one time with their parents? Are they being punished for the time commitment to the other activities? Who stays home to watch the siblings? [b]This is the kind of trip that breeds resentment and doesn't solve anything. [/b]

I have a DC who puts in an incredible amount of time and energy because he loves his sport (which, for the record, is going nowhere past high school because he isn't so good college is a thought). As parents, we then have to also match that time and energy. I have another DC who doesn't practice anything - not the instrument, not her singing, nothing. She has private lessons, at her request, for both of those things. I'm happy to support her and take her to shows in DC and NYC. If we're on vacation, I'll seek out theater she'd enjoy. But there's zero chance I'd plan a special vacation across the country to make up for what OP's son sees as an injustice. You're just validating a feeling that's incorrect.

Now, I will say, given other posts on DCUM, having a 15 yo who wants to vacation with you is a win. So maybe there's a middle ground.[/quote]

The resentment is clearly already there, it’s just choosing to say the “unworthy” son’s resentment is fine and the golden children’s should be avoided. Also, this trip doesn’t “prohibit” them from having a one on one trip? Especially if OP keeps it to an overnight or two and (justifiably) saves trans continental trips for the whole family.[/quote]

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