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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sleeping with more than one person is totally gross whether you’re male or female. Ewwww[/quote]

Sleeping with 3 men, one after the other four months each in a year is fine, according to you. But sleeping with the same 3 men interspaced for the same 1 year is somehow wrong! [b][Yes, totally correct, that is wrong.][/b]

It is so much easier to compare and solidify your choice when you are dating 3 men and you are dumping the lowest ranked choice as soon as you find a better one. This is by far the most efficient and least stressful way compared to the time when I was dating one person at a time. 
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It's gross and disgusting, and you will find that men have choices, too. The "better ones" are not going to commit to you.[/quote]

I don't understand what you find gross about this. I am expecting men to do the same thing as well. It simply makes finding compatible partners more efficient.

I think I slept with fewer men than average as a result of dating three men simultaneously. It takes time to really get to know a person, often 2-3 years. There is only a small window between age 24-28 where you can get the best man possible in your life. If you date one at a time, you have a shot at 2-3 at most. Whereas I was able to date 8 men during the same period and got to know them really well.  [/quote]

I’m a proponent of starting it non-exclusive, but it puzzles me how you were able to navigate the logistics with all 3 in these 2-3years ? Didn’t they know where you had been, asked questions? Knew each other ? Why you were refusing exclusivity with one of them ? Because none of the men wanted it, or you wanted to sleep with others ? Usually to get to know someone young people start spending a lot of dats together - for example, stay at their respective places overnight  Thursday through Sunday. You never wanted to spend as much time with one person, to get to know them, let’s say, in 3 months ? I can’t imagine the logistics of bringing my cosmetics to 3 different men’s places 3 days each week. Or were they long distance relationships so you only saw them when in town ? [/quote]

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