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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Usually the parents spend more time on their careers than with the children. [/quote]

Successful parenting is a job in itself, if both parents have demanding careers it’s very hard to parent well. [/quote]

I agree. Parents only have so much time in a day and some children are more challenging personality-wise, motivation-wise, or are neurotypical in a non-obvious way (ADD, OCD, autism) and managing that child or those children and subsequent more challenging sibling dynamics will take a lot of parental resources and may lead to more permissiveness. We know a very high powered, wealthy (both family $ and earned $), accomplished (Ivy and T-20 degrees, MD at hedge fund and partner at a top law firm; family $ may have influenced one trajectory a bit but a lot of hard work, talent, and ambition was required in both cases) couple who will have their fourth child in seven years soon. They have multiple live in nannies and neither of them ever manages more than two children at once. Their children will have a ton of resources and will have received a ton of caregiving, but a lot that will not be from the actual parents.

The oldest child now in 1st wouldn’t talk in many social situations in preschool (seemed like selective mutism) and I witnessed that child last year hurt multiple children on the playground (stepped on at least three kids’ hands and pushed a child off a play structure) during a 30-minute period when I was volunteering.

Who knows what the outcomes will be? I think the stereotype of the uber successful but distant parent is changing a bit though. I think there are a lot of parents who strive for both, but is providing a resource rich environment for a child and not being physically present a ton the same as being physically present? Is it better? Is it worse? Is it parent and caregiver dependent?

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*meant to say ADD, OCD, or anxiety… [/quote]

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