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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, he's not super into you, but he's getting sex so why not continue. I follow the "no sex without monogamy" thing because that's what works for me. Clearly that's not what works for him. You have to decide if you need that.[/quote]

I wouldn’t have been opposed to just hooking up (he’s cute and good in bed), I just find it odd he wasn’t honest with me about sleeping with someone else and not seeing relationship potential with me. [/quote]

How was he not honest? You asked, he answered.

Or do you mean you think he was dishonest because he didn’t voluntarily disclose it upfront? I don’t think that is dishonest. [/quote]

OP. Yes, it feels like a lie of omission. Sort of like, I have kids, and if I didn’t disclose to a man after several dates that I had kids, then said “well you never asked!”

Admittedly I may be sensitive to this as my xH would try to get away with cheating on technicalities, like “you never TOLD me I couldn’t get on dating apps/sext with ex-girlfriends/DM random women on Facebook” when I felt it’s pretty obvious you don’t do those things when in a relationship.

Anyway, I’ve decided to end things with the guy. I don’t feel comfortable with the situation. He asked me to come over last night and I let him know I don't see a future and wouldn’t be seeing him anymore. [/quote]
You need to examine your role in this misunderstanding before you date anyone else. There’s nothing wrong with sleeping with someone on the third date. There’s nothing wrong with wanting exclusivity once a relationship becomes sexual. However, those two things are not automatically assumed to go hand in hand. People who really want exclusivity, but haven’t indicated that, are bound to have this happen.[/quote]

Agree with this.  As a woman.  I assume nothing when it comes to exclusivity even if we are sleeping together.  Ask.  [/quote]

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