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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not come from a culture of drinking and I married an American man who comes from a white catholic family that love to party. The people party into their 60s from what I have seen. Large parties, keg stands and whole weekends related to being hungover and reminiscing the great time that was had.

My husband is similar. He does have a diagnosis of fatty liver disease and non-dysplastic Barrett's esophagus. He recently went to Vegas with a friend for a week and came home with bruises on his body. Is it normal for people to drink so much that you get bruises??

In his normal week, after I go to bed, he will stay up till 4 am and drink a bottle of wine with 4-5 beers. Sometimes 2 bottles of wine. He then sleeps in till noon. When I say this is not okay he says I am just "not fun" and don't understand his culture.
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There are subcultures that enshrine drinking as part of socializing but also make excuses for it and accept their friends' and families' behavior. The answer to any objection is just that you are overreacting, not fun, don't understand the culture, etc., etc. You will never convince these people differently.

Anyone who had fatty liver disease and continues to drink is killing himself! This is not normal. You should leave as quickly as you can.

I have a friend whose husband has kidney problems and drinks and has ended up in the hospital a few times. He tells his wife that the doctor told him he could drink. He's obviously lying.

[b]Addicts lie. In AA, they say that people who can't get sober are constitutionally incapable of being honest. I think this is spot on. There are some people who will never admit they have a problem, lie about what they do and will not take responsibility for their alcoholism and in the end it kills them. They blame it on others, including the people they have fun with.[/b]

Being part of a drinking culture is irrelevant.

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As someone married to an addict, this is so sadly true.

You'll know an addict wants to change when they drag all their junk out into the open - not with everyone but with a select few people - and stop lying. Anything short of that and they'll keep lying to protect the habit/disease that protects them from facing the hard junk that's why they drink in the first place.[/quote]

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