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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Friend’s son left TJ. What to say when we meet?

Saying ‘I’m sorry’ feels wrong.

Asking why, also feels wrong.

Saying nothing also feels wrong.

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My kid left too.  Asking where they went is appropriate.  If they want to talk they will elaborate.

My kid was a straight A student and had trouble with the peers.  She saw rampant cheating and bragging/lying about grades was based on pure lack of integrity.  It wasn't a good fit.  Most of the kids don't have any social skills, which combined with the lack of integrity made it difficult for her to find a solid group of friends.  I also didn't like the parents.  I felt they were overbearing, pushy, braggy (like their kids), and lacked social skills.  She went back to private school that screens these kids out. They are smart, no doubt, but they don't have what it takes to be really successful outside an academic environment - which is what we, as parents, are training them for.[/quote]

Re: the parents, is this really true of everyone? I'm asking as someone who would like for my child to go to TJ one day, if he wants to and can get in. We are not super competitive/cut throat. Just thought it would be a cool learning experience, better than a typical highschool. Child is a rising 3rd grader and likes math, coding, engineering... Maybe I'm naive and child doesn't have a chance unless he emulates those who are like what you describe? [/quote]

Well.... you see how mean people are to my story of my daughter. You get everything from 'it didn't happen and Im a troll' to 'I'm a liar and my my kid couldn't cut it' or 'this refects badly on us not the school'.  I think the responses here totally reflect the school and their children.  You need to just decide if these are the people whose children you want your kid to be friends with and be in class with.  I wish I had known that going in and we would have never applied.  Honestly, I do think your kid (and most gifted children) are  better placed in a private that stimulates their curiosity in a nurturing environment that is free from the people you see responding to me.  In my DD's school there are lots of gifted kids, but many are just bright, some are even (gasp) average.  I think they all contribute positively to the environment.[/quote]

You literally say most of the TJ kids have no social skills or integrity.   And then proceeded to make ridiculously insulting claims about the parents too.

And you think there is something wrong with everybody else?[/quote]

Lots of people on this forum have pointed out the cheating culture and lack of integrity at TJ - its a known thing.  Many of those remarks come from people with their kids at the school out of frustration. The fact that many people vigorously defend it means that on some level it's supported.  Can you not see that?[/quote]

Most of the kids don't cheat.[/quote]

It still occurs, but nowhere near as frequently as it did before the admission change.[/quote]

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