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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Annoying sounds can be ignored, tolerated, and allowed by understanding adults. Unfortunately, classmates will often form negative opinions of kids who make distracting/annoying  noises like humming, burping, yawning loudly, cracking knuckles, making popping or smacking noises with their mouths, farting, and drumming their fingers. These are socially unacceptable behaviors that can matter when trying to make friends at school.[/quote]

This. It's not that people can't or shouldn't learn to tolerate these kinds of quirks in people. I'm 45, I've had classmates, coworkers, roommates and neighbors who did things I found annoying, and I've dealt with it and even liked many of those people anyway. But I'm a pretty tolerant, understanding person generally. And even I have my limits.

Discouraging these behaviors in kids, or suggesting they try to limit them to when they are alone or at home, is not about trying to "norm" your kid or reject their neurodivergence. It's about helping them make a good impression and socialize them for being around other people, something that is absolutely essential for human beings.

Think of it this way: do you discourage your kid from picking their nose in public? Or wiping their face on their shirt? Or scratching their butt or their balls? Well that can be hard for kids to stop doing but most parents work to socialize hem out of it. This is honestly no different.[/quote]

+1 exactly[/quote]

Agree. My neurodivergent 11yo DS does some of things, (laying beside me right now taking to himself a and making weird sounds), and it has definitely affected his ability to make friends.[/quote]

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