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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many, many sweeping generalizations here [/quote]

Seriously! I’m half-Indian/half-white (and not young!) and have seen a LOT of mixed marriages

First - Indian-American culture is hardly monolithic.

There are the academic Indians who immigrated to the US for graduate school.  Usually they have been here the longest of the other groups, and even have a fairly high percentage of mixed marriages and non-arranged marriages.  They also aren’t flashy.  Usually these folks are the most chill about mixed marriages- provided the non-Indian future in-law is well educated.  Think of Bobby Jindal’s, Nikki Haley’s, and Kamala Harris’s families of origin.

The doctor Indians tend to be more particular about things - preferring doctor-doctor matches.   They immigrated later - tend to be more insular - even to the point of only socializing with Indians from the same region.  Also much more flashy.  Mixed marriages may be less accepted at first, but that’s changed.  And again - if the prospective in-law is a medical doctor and embraces the Indian culture  - a lot is overlooked.

Then they are the more business focused Indian immigrants and the more recent IT/engineering immigrants.  My experience with these groups are they are even more insular than the academics and doctors- so probably less likely to be accepting of non-Indian matches, but eventually it works out.

BIG caveat is that if the non-Indian is not white or Asian - it’s a usually a bigger deal.  And if the Indian family is Hindu (or Jain) then if the potential partner is Muslim - ooooof - that’s also usually not well received.

Also, the less educated the parents (particularly the mom) is, the less accepting of a non-Indian they’d be.

Again - my experience of observing this over the last few decades.  [/quote]

I'm a PP and I agree with this a lot. My parents are from the first group you mentioned and I posted above that they embraced my non-Indian DH.

I agree more recent immigrants in the IT sector seem to be more insular. I think a lot of them work with mostly Indians etc - prior groups had no choice but to mix in and picked up a lot of Americana via osmosis.

I have posted before in the Religion forum that I feel sort of unwelcome at our local Indian temple (though my extended family and my parents' family friends have been great).[/quote]
The earlier Indian arrivals had to make efforts to assimilate because there weren’t many other fellow Indians around. My mom’s brother came to America as a college student in 1966 and he was the only brown person in his Ohio town. He had an arranged Indian marriage, took his wife to America and they were the only Indians in their community for a long time. Both their children have professional degrees and are married to similarly-educated white Americans. 
The Indians arriving today usually find well-established communities that they can readily fit into, down to very regional groups. They don’t have to mix with others if they don’t want to. [/quote]

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