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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]9-5 is pretty ridiculous hours. Try working 7-3:30 or 8-4 instead and then it matches school hours better. I often leave at 5:30am, dh takes the kids to school and then I'm home by 3pm. It frees up the whole afternoon for me to be with kids.

My kids do after school activities and those activities (tae kwon do, ballet, gymnastics, kumon) all pick up from school and take them directly there. Technically they can all stay there until 6:30pm and occasionally I need it if I'm in long meetings downtown or something.

And yes, we all have choices. I wanted to have 3 kids, 5 bedroom house, nice vacations, college paid for. It's expensive. I know plenty of SAHMs who live in tiny apartments with 2 bedrooms and still live happy lives. America is great in that we do have choices. Become a trad wife if that makes you happy. Or marry a man who pulls his 50% (like I did). We all chose our majors, careers, spouses, houses. Change your choices if they aren't working for you.[/quote]

Every single mom on my block of 2-4 million homes does not work or has a side job. Look my neighbor is a IVY league Doctor, sounds good. But she has four kids, range rover, mercedes convertible, beach house. She quit at 45 after birth of fourth child. She only made like 400k as a doctor. Her husband makes like 2-4 million as a CEO. What does she have to prove? She does on line medical stuff for a HMO just enough partime to keep license. The Dads on my block are all workholics who own business, judges, surgeons, CEOs, EVPs in IT alpha type males.

Five of my neighbors are SAHMs with no kids at home. Their kids are graduated and out of house. They are not going to work full time for 100k and give back half in taxes due to tax bracket. Yet somehow people think there are oppressed. 1/2 of these childless SAHMs have maids. I have no clue why. But they have so much money so they kept them after kids grown and they no longer work.  [/quote]

Our home is worth more than $4m, and we both work.  Some of it is that we need both of our incomes to maintain our lifestyle, which includes an expensive mortgage, saving for college (almost done), saving for retirement, supporting both of DH's parents, paying dues at two clubs, and covering the costs of a nanny and housecleaner.  We could downsize and get by on either of our incomes alone, but we're both so far along in our careers now that we have enough control over our schedules that we don't feel the need to retire.  If something is important, we make room for it.  I have several friends who have an HHI of over $1m or a HHNW of over $5m, and both of them work.  I also have friends who fake work, like teach 3 pilates classes a week to claim they have a job, or they have a title working at their family office, and their only ascertainable duties are to attend quarterly family meetings. [/quote]

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