Reply to Fighting about husband's inability to handle our kid

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Fighting about husband's inability to handle our kid"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is the 4-year old well behaved in preschool?[/quote]

OP here. The 4-year-old is well-behaved everywhere but at home. Preschool, grandparents, babysitters. She is still spirited and emotional, but very manageable. Her teachers and our date night babysitter were shocked when I was mentioning going to a therapist with her.

I do think a lot about if there's something truly off with her besides just being a very emotional kid, which absolutely runs in the family...and if so, what kind of therapy would really help. The thing is none of it really comes up in the therapist's office, she's an angel there.

[/quote]
If she is an angel at therapy and well behaved for the sitter and teacher, then it's a you problem.
Look at how you parent - you may have allowed what, in the past, would have been called a "spoiled brat"
She knows that you will bend over backwards to her every whim - and her ammunition is a full blown meltdown.
Therapy is needed - but likely for you and DH to understand how to set limits and put a stop to her being the emotional regulator for the family. [/quote]
Lol. NP. This is spoken like someone who knows less than nothing about children, development, psychology, or parenting.

PP, if your kid is a disaster at school and an angel for you, it’s because your child is scared of you and you are not a source of support for them. OP’s experience is normal and a sign that her kid feels safe at home. [/quote]

… or it’s a sign that home is unstructured and chaotic and school is more predictable and stimulating.

pro tip - a child does not have wild tantrums at home because they “feel safe.” [/quote]
Yes they can. Don’t double down on ignorance.[/quote]

No they really do not. I know this is a “just so” story people like to tell themselves - but no, horrible behavior at home is not a sign that they “feel safe.” It is a sign that either something is chaotic at home; or that there are no consequences for the behavior at home; or that behavior is better at school only temporarily.

I’ve seen it happen before and it was because the mom tolerated absolutely horrible behavior (hitting, sweating, biting) from an older kid and expressly stated that she did not believe in disciple. [/quote]
LOL! You’ve seen one case and think you’re an expert on all kids. Typical ignorant 🤡[/quote]

And you’re an expert on all kids? Ok ../

No actual expert would address behavioral issues at home as “oh don’t worry, she just feels SAFE with you.” [/quote]

Exactly.ppjust read a feel good post on a mommy blog and ran with it.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics