Reply to Fighting about husband's inability to handle our kid

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Fighting about husband's inability to handle our kid"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was use a few years ago. there can be so many things going on but the bottom line is you need more, different help. For us it was parent training (I had to beg, cry and bargain to get my husband to do it and it was $$) but it was so worth it for us to be on the same page. It made a huge difference relatively quickly. You may learn you are accommodating more than you think.

Even still, at these very young ages, for certain kids, including mine, if a parent can’t stay calm nothing will work. Kids co-regulate with their parents and when a parent is escalating it’s very challenging to the child to be calmer than their parent. And my husband just couldn’t do it in some situations and for very extended periods of time. He did do some therapy for himself and that helped but it sort of wears off and he hasn’t been back though he’s still better than he was. So I am very mommy tracked and while my husband certainly can watch our kids it’s not the best thing for our family for him to be the primary caregiver (nor does he want to). It is what it is. I would seriously take a big step back and think if this is worth it to you.

Also if you catch yourself spiraling remember this is not forever. Things are very different at 10 than at 4. Do what you need to do now. And please don’t forget the toll these awful meltdowns take on your other child. They will survive but it’s really hard on them. Make sure you are giving them special attention other times and being open to hearing what they are experiencing. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics