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[quote=Anonymous]It's not "on the selfish side" to not give away your belongings, cherished or not, just because someone else asks for them. You and your friend both have issues with boundaries. I was a people pleaser for a very long time until I realized that saying no to someone might cause me momentary discomfort but that momentary discomfort was far preferable to saying yes and then resenting the person or situation forever more and letting them live in my head. You don't need to make excuses. If she brings it up again I would say "you've brought this up a few times. I am not giving you the poster. Please stop asking." you don't need to help her find a copy of the poster. you don't need to feel "guilty". you don't need to justify to yourself or to her why you don't want to give this poster to her at any time down the road.[/quote]
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