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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you just give it to them if they are your friend?

I think I may be on the selfish side because I don’t like giving my cherished possessions away. I’ve also heard that it’s bad luck to keep the things that others covet.  I buy very little and usually the things I have, I hold onto forever.

Basically, my friend has been pressuring me to give her this one of a kind vintage movie poster that my husband had professionally framed in a cherry wood frame in our earlier years of dating, and gifted to me as a birthday gift. He was pretty poor then so it was a very significant gift because I’d guess the framing must have cost a lot and he knew I liked the movie.

My friend is also a big fan of this movie, probably more so than I am, and so she feels she is more deserving of this poster because I don’t love the movie as much as she does. The first time she asked at our housewarming party, when it was up on our wall, I was pretty incredulous that she had the gall to even ask because that’s something I’d never do. I flatly said no.

But she has been asking me for this poster for years, every time she sees it. And I get the feeling SHE is incredulous that I keep refusing to give it to her, and she’s always made snide comments here and there, more about other people she thinks are selfish and self centered. And she’s made a few comments about me as well- more along the lines that I’m not a good friend. Things like not picking up the phone reliably when she calls, or not being thoughtful like she is. She also claims I’m autistic, which I’m not.

Anyway I’ve told her repeatedly that it has special meaning to me and I do actually love the movie. And so now she has made me promise that I put it in my will to give to her. Now whenever I look at this poster I have negative feelings of guilt and I go back and forth on whether I should just suck it up and give it to her. Otherwise the only way she’ll get to enjoy it is if I die an early death. Every time I look at it I feel bad about myself that I may be a selfish and sucky friend. I told my husband about it and he basically said he’d be mad if I gave it away because it was a special gift from him. So it’s really a no-win situation.

So my question is WWYD in the same situation?[/quote]

Keep the husband.
Cut off the weirdo.
Get therapy.[/quote]

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