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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd get rid of the friend.  Unbelievably entitled[/quote]

For more context, she is the friend in our group that is always doing things for others. She is a type a organizer. She hosts gatherings. She organized my baby shower. And she has given me tons of baby hand me downs.[/quote]

Ya, this is a type. They do this to allow them to think of themselves as good people. She likely has a personality disorder.

Listen to the fact that she is making you feel guilty -- why are you willing to have a relationship with someone who makes you feel guilty and bad?

Good luck. I tried to slow fade someone like this in my life and she clung like a barnacle. When I told her straight out that I felt uncomfortable with our dynamic, she lost her mind, trashed me to mutual friends, etc.

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We’ve had this same dynamic. We’ve had some falling out incidents but she’s always made her way back into my life, mostly because we have the same friends. I do think she may have a personality disorder but she is getting therapy. [b]For a while I was her go to therapist but that was incredibly draining and not good for either of us[/b]. [/quote]

I'm PP and oh my goodness is this familiar.

I have had therapy and I realized something -- while that friend did have a personality disorder, I realized that I attracted people with that personality type because my mom is like that, too. So it was on me, too, accepting that kind of neediness.

That's why so many people chiming in think it sounds like a crazy situation -- healthy people actually don't tolerate these personalities at all. But we do.

Therapy really helped me figure that out, and also figure out how to kindly and firmly say no and protect my energy.

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This. And move on from this person, OP. Certainly never have them in your home again.
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