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[quote=Anonymous]That's my daughter. She's the teenager that makes adults say "Wow, what a delightful young lady." (Though I can't see myself throwing a party for 300+ people!) I can think of a couple factors (in addition to her natural social tendencies bc there's always an element of nature alongside the nurture):

1. I always noted when she had interacted well and praised her for it. "That person was really impressed with the way you stood up straight/ made eye contact/ shook hands/ participated in the conversation," and I pointed out other kids that did it well, too. 
2. We have dinner as a family every single night, no screens, conversation required. 
3. We entertain frequently-- neighbors, friends (hers and ours), colleagues. Sometimes it's pretty chill, sometimes we take it up a notch. And I've always casually pointed out the differences in hosting different people.

This makes it sound like there was some kind of grand plan, or etiquette curriculum. There wasn't; this is all hindsight. "Oh, I guess [b]that[/b] thing worked out!" Believe me, there were plenty of half-baked attempts at engineering a well-rounded kid-- music lessons, coding practice, every art supply-- that flopped. [/quote]

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