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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]300 people for this one girl?[/quote]

+1. Any family that hosts a gathering this large has given their kids plenty of practice at playing hostess.[/quote]

I had a friend like this as a teen and young adult, though she was 'on' at all times, not just in large gatherings. And it's this - the plenty of practice thing.

I don't think the people skills were explicitly taught, but my friend's parents modeled it very consciously (I know because our parents were friends and my mom told me they talked about this somewhat). They had guests over in their home for meals from the time their kids were very small. They modeled how to be interested in people, ask questions, and spark conversation. They included their kids in the conversation. The kids learned from very young that conversation looked like genuine interest in people and how to make it flow. They modeled and enforced manners and hosting skills.

The family are varying degrees of extrovert and ambivert - no true introverts - and all the family's 3 kids came out with the ability to make people feel valued in a conversation. That said, two were more innately charismatic than the third.[/quote]

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