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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, one of the best things my friends did for me was to not take anything I did or said personally and when I was ready to be friends again, they let me pick up right where we left off.  For me, (and like others) I withdrew and couldn't bear to be around moms, pregnant friends or anyone.  I was always angry, bitter at the world, at God, at everything.  So, I wouldn't call my friends back, wouldn't get together and when we would, I was often sad and difficult to be around.

Fast forward to when I became a mom, I slowly tried to rebuild the friendships I had let slip.  wouldn't you know it that my loving and absolutely wonderful friends, embraced me and acted like nothing was wrong and let me come back into their lives without questioning me, making me feel guilty or bad.  I treasure these friends more than anything.

So, my advice is to let them know you are there for them, but that you also understand if they need to step away for a little bit, that you'll be there for them when they are ready. [/quote]

Glad to know your friends aren't as selfish as you are/were. Seriously, you should be ashamed of your behavior; I hope you at least had the decency to apologize when you finally deemed them worthy of your time and attention. [/quote]

When you get cancer, give me a call![/quote]

WTF are you even talking about? Cancer is NOTHING like dealing with infertility. How absolutely rude and offensive. [/quote]

Have you dealt with both?  Because I have and the frustration, uncertainty, and social isolation I experienced were pretty similar. Sure there were differences, but I don't consider a comparison of the two experiences rude or offensive at all.[/quote]

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