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[quote=Anonymous]Where is your DH in all this? I don’t understand why you’re the only one in trouble for this. He needs to sit down and talk with her, and then each time she’s disrespectful, he needs to speak up to support you. Not attack her but support how an adult responds.

With that said, you should also dig deep and think about her motivations. Even if you didn’t do wrong during Covid, it could go a long way to empathize with her. If I had to guess, the Covid friend group solidified without her and she hasn’t found her social footing after that. An apology without defensiveness could mean a lot, especially since the situation has passed and it’s not like you have to change any behavior just because you apologized. It’s easy to do but many people refuse to do it for whatever reason.

And finally, lay off on minor criticisms and advice. She’s an adult now. My dd is younger but gets more irritated with me than her dad. I tell my husband and he relays advice to her, and it’s much better received. For things that don’t matter, just let it go and vocally say that you have confidence in her decisions. She is an adult but at the same time needs to own her decisions and can’t blame you later. [/quote]

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