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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Instead of convincing her about her height, I'd emphasize what a waste of time it is to wish things were different about something we can not change.  Like wishing for a different eye color, or smaller feet.  You can't stop the thought, but you shouldn't focus on entertaining it.  You focus on accepting it and spending your time on more productive things.  Does she want to waste her life wishing she was shorter?  It will not change.

So.  Help her start to focus on becoming who she wants, without changing her height.  It is very hard.  Teenage years are rough when you don't physically fit in.  But life is long and the sooner she makes her peace with her height, the happier her long life will be.[/quote]

This. I would be more matter of fact about this and avoid indulging much hand wringing about it. She's tall and there's nothing that can be done about it. What's more, being tall is not a disability, so she may not like it, but her tallness doesn't merit much sympathy. So she can spend her time whining about something silly that she can't change, or she can spend her time doing something more productive. And I would put it just about that plainly to her.

In my experience, spending a lot of time talking about these things, trying to convince a kid that they are wrong, just makes them obsess more.[/quote]

Jesus.  Start mentally preparing for your adult kids to go no contact someday.[/quote]

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