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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this kind of thing is all over the place, and it does not even matter if you are a new neighbor on the street or an old one.  We've lived on our street for over 10 years and for as long as I can remember we have always been friendly with our neighbors and occassionally more.  My son is 11 and the dynamic changed last year when our next store neighbors moved out and a new family moved in.  [b]The new family, particularly the mom, immediatly wanted to chum up with everybody in the neighborhood[/b]. This made me a little uncomfortable because while I am always friendly with my neighbors, it has never been in a sticky tight kind of way - just a friendly casual way really. Well some f the other neighbors clicked with them and suddenly there is a clique where there was never one before.  Even though we have already been friendly with the other neighbors for years, and have even gone out to eat with them or had one set over for New YEar's a coupel times, we are pretty much on the outside of the new click since we have never moved past the casual friendly part. So now we get excluded alot, and they do gatherings on the front lawns, too.  It affects my son most because he is friends with all their kids and wonders why we don't get invited. I think its just that the dynamic changed. All it takes is one family.  [b]If you are not "in" with that family then you get left out[/b]. We're friendly with that family but we haven't become bosom buddies like some of the other neighbors have. So we are the outsiders now when before we never were, and neither was anybody else as far as I knew.
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But you weren't excluded - you actually choose to exclude yourself in this case.

Going back to the OP's post (yes, I realize it is really old at this point) but you did exactly what her neighbors did.  You didn't want to invite new family into your circle and wanted to hold them at arms length. But it seems like the rest of the neighbors didn't want that and were happy to suddenly have someone in the neighborhood who was all about being friendly and chummy.[/quote]

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