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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else?
My high school friends are scattered and a few have splintered off with time, which is normal, I suppose. Ditto college. We mainly communicate via memes or some text threads.
The adult friends I made in my 20s all are now busy with families, me included; seems there's never a great time to meet up, and some have moved.
I love my neighborhood and have cultivated some solid friendships there, originally through my kids, but the guesswork sucks. I don't want to come off as too aggressive or needy, so I limit invites or texts. I thought I clicked with one person --  but several hangouts later, they basically ghosted and stopped reciprocating, our text thread went dormant, and...poof.
Anyone else in this boat? I just feel low-level stressed and somewhat lonely as a middle-aged mom.[/quote]
It gets worse once your kids leave school.[/quote]
NP here.  I hadn't thought of this.  [/quote]

I’ve found it to be far easier now that my kids are in high school.

Many of the moms I’d long known in a fairly basic / intermittent way when our kids were young have become true friends these past few years. Deeper, more real conversations, for sure.

It’s because we have more time to spend together now that we’re not being interrupted by our kids, and especially once our oldest started driving. (My mom friends with much younger kids are still much harder to connect with. But there are a couple I suspect will be true friends once they have more time.)

Hang in there. It’s truly hard to meet our social need for friendship and adult connection when our kids are young. They require a lot of care, attention, and mind space. Know that you’re far from alone in craving more friendship - it can be a strangely lonely time of life, but thankfully, it’s not forever. [/quote]

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