Reply to H’s ADHD can’t be fixed. Now what?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "H’s ADHD can’t be fixed. Now what?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP, my DH is quite similar to yours. Fortunately work is the thing he’s addicted to and has an intense job that he uses to chase dopamine. Thank god for that.

DH was diagnosed with ADHD, depression and sleep apnea after our first and only child was born. He also got a full neuropsych- I’ve posted about it before- because his symptoms and behavior were so crazy that both the doctor and I had concerns about early dementia, which runs in his family. He was then diagnosed with ASD.

All of these diagnoses made absolute sense to him and to me, but it doesn’t mean that DH has taken responsibility for them. Sometimes he throws a tantrum and even says they’re not real, and will go off his meds and cpap for a few days, weeks or months.

In the process of getting DH help, stories about his family (who live overseas and who we see rarely) and childhood came out. And it was messed up. He has a ton of hidden mental illness (literally people living in basements or in inpatient but everyone pretends they’re on work trips or visiting relatives) in his family that I didn’t know about until well after our marriage. Having his own struggles and having grown up in a family where mental health challenges were pervasive and pretended away was super destructive. I’m sure your DH has similar hidden stories.

One kid is a good rule.
Have your own money.
Make your own life as straightforward as possible.
Have your own friends because god knows you are going to need them.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics