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[quote=Anonymous]Forget about income for a sec. The real problem is hours, flexibility, and stress. If you want a 50/50 partnership, and you’re a straight woman, your husband needs to be working 40 hours a week. MAYBE 45. Otherwise, particularly if he makes way more money, you’re the primary parent, whether you want to be or not, even if you work full time. So - what are his current hours? If he’s working significantly more than 40 hours a week, how does he think that will change when you have kids? Does what he’s saying sound thoughtful? Are you on the same page? “I’m sure it will all work out” or “no, I’ll definitely help out” or “plenty of parents put in a lot of hours” - run. You will not get what you want. “I’m paying my dues now. In 3-5 years, I’ll be able to take a big step back.” Or “Yeah, this job is a great fit for me now, but once kids are on the way, I think a lower-pressure job like XYZ would be a better fit more my life” - great. [/quote]
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