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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her mom died recently and she talked about that w you and you had a friend disappointment and talked to her about that. You’re getting closer. Also, I agree w PP: have some perspective. Her mom just died and she is undoubtedly in a lot of emotional pain/grief. No matter what her relationship with her mom was like, losing a parent is a huge deal. She needs friends right now. If you can’t be a good friend to her, why? What are you afraid of? Getting too close w somrone?

You mention you’re from the Midwest (or moved to DC from the Midwest) I lived in the Midwest for 9 years and though im very outgoing and friendly, it was so hard to make real friends there. Midwest people are kind but distant. It’s hard to become close bc they don’t really let you in. They have their family and their little friend group from childhood or hs or college and it’s very insular. They’re not open to making new, close friends. Maybe you fit that Midwest stereotype too, OP. Nice but just looking for surface level relationships.[/quote]

I’m not sure if this makes a difference or not but [b]her mom died in August, [/b]so it isn’t recent. She was talking about her because [b]this was a few days after Mother’s Day.[/b] I offered to help her with moving her mom’s things because it was a considerate thing to do and wanted to be a good friend. I don’t want you all to think I’ve dismissed her grief.

Maybe it is a Midwest thing - “kind but distant”. I don’t know. [/quote]

Grief comes in waves, OP. Mother’s Day will probably be hard for her for a couple years, minimum. You never really get over losing a parent who raised you. 
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