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OP here: this answer sums up my relationship at the moment. And to the poster who asked ED is not an issue, he can get an E just not interested, it feels like it is too much of an effort. And when sex happened it would just be turn to the side and good night. 
And yes, inevitably this sexual frustration spills over to other parts of our marriage, so as you can imagine, it is a mess and it feels like a chaotic whirlwind at times.

[quote=Anonymous]I have sympathy for all the women here in sexless marriages.

Is it an ED issue for you? In other words, if they could longer have PIV and Viagra (doesn't work all the time and for everyone) fails to help, would you be okay on other forms of sex and intimacy.

The reason I ask this question is that I have noticed when I have sex with a woman and I don't ejaculate she feels as if either I didn't enjoy it or I am into her etc. I feel like for us men when it comes to sex women expect us to always be ready wrong erection, ejaculation etc...Or is it just a perception that's wrong? [/quote]

Yes! I would love for there to be intimacy. It doesn’t have to be PIV. I mean we have no intimacy now. Other forms of touch especially sensual. Touch are very loving intimate and connected. That’s the piece that’s missing. Yeah do I wanna be railed, sure do! Would I be happy just knowing my husband desired me and we could be close that would also be really nice.

I’ve asked him to use toys with me and sensual massage and he says he will, but it never happens. Ive tried to introduce bsdm. With him choosing roles. Nothing. I’d love oral it would be amazing. I’ve had boyfriends that had ED and that’s all we did. It was beautiful and I felt so loved/wanted. It’s the connection that’s missing .

Before it got bad, yeah I associated lack of erection with lack of desire. I was used to being responded to with great enthusiasm in the past.

And I spent years giving blowjobs and no reciprocal handies to him, hoping it’s some way he would get over this no pun intended hump (slump). Nothing worked to keep things consistently going and never initiation from him. Eventually I just rolled over and stopped asking. He’s become asexual. I have not.

So yeah I’d be into anything that signaled his interest. 
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