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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you raise children that can set, meet goals and succeed in what they want?[/quote]

By modeling those skills yourself. Your kids learn by watching you.[/quote]

Many exceptionally privileged people who I know who have successful parents are not exceptional and have struggled with mental health and substance abuse, and even if they seem to have things together (decent job, spouse, kids, lux lifestyle, $2M home) a lot of that is due to the fact that their parents were able to throw money at problems to make those problems go away and then finance their lives as adults.

So many privileged kits lack grit and drive. And maybe some of that is seeing how much their parents sacrificed to get to where they are and deciding they don’t want that life.[/quote]I think this is what OP is asking about. When you're kids grow up in a wealthy home, the privilege just comes to them. They don't learn the self-motivated grit that made their parents' successful. How do you teach that, when the kids are cocooned in privilege? [/quote]

They have to work during the summer for spending money, they have to work for grades (you provide support, but you’re not writing their papers), they have to take responsibility in an age appropriate way for certain things. A lot of the hardest working people I’ve worked with throughout my career are able to show up on time, have high EQ, are not afraid to ask questions and on the flip side feel comfortable taking initiative, and want to learn and do better.[/quote]

Would add that if you have a requisite level of intelligence, success is really about EQ and executive functioning. What holds people back is low EQ, poor executive functioning, and entitlement. Entitlement really undermines drive. [/quote]

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