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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your child has not had much unsupervised freedom yet, I wouldn't let them go. If they haven't already had to navigate pressures at parties, and figured out how to make wise choices in the face of peer pressure, now is not the time.

I've unfortunately had to navigate that with my son throughout high school. And now he makes good choices. Doesn't mean he's fool proof. He's still only 18.  But that type of partying peer pressure isn't new.

I think for kids who haven't had much exposure, unsupervised beach week is overwhelming and could be quite dangerous. I often tell my son about my friend who "woke up in the back of a van where she lost her virginity."  It was only decades later that consent even crossed my mind. The real story was likely much worse.

The hookup culture is prevalent in some teen circles. Your kid should know having sex with anyone who's intoxicated is illegal. They can't consent.

My son is not going.  But I would have let him.  At this point, I feel like he would make (mostly) good choices. But I did not and would not rent a place for him. I would not help pay for him to go in on a place with friends.

He does have use of a car and I would have let him drive to the beach to stay with friends, because he has already demonstrated that he won't drink and drive and in fact has been his friends' sober driver on occasion (they still should have called me but I take small victories where I can).

He's a very strong swimmer and surfer and knows not to swim intoxicated. But I think nonconsensual sex, non consensual video of pretty much anything and everything, drunken walks across roads, insane speeding, drunk driving, unknown drugs, and having money stolen are the biggest risks.

You know your kid best.   Are they ready for that at their current level of maturity? 
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If kids aren’t mature enough for beach week because of drinking and hook ups, how are they mature enough to live on a college campus 3 months from now?[/quote]

But using alcohol/ marijuana, under age 21, is a clear violation of law, as is engaging in s*x before age 18.[/quote]
Using alcohol and marijuana is illegal for underage college students as well. I guess your argument is that even if your kid isn’t mature enough to deal with an environment that includes alcohol and hookups, the benefits of attending college outweigh the risks to your immature kid, which makes college worthwhile, but there’s no benefit to beach week that outweighs the risks, even if the experience would help your child to mature?

Btw, it’s not illegal to engage in sex before 18. In MD and a lot of other states, the age of consent is lower than 18, and in many states, someone who is older cannot be charged with statuary rape if they’re close enough in age to their minor partner and the sex was consensual, so it could be legal for a 16 year old and a 19 year old to have sex.[/quote]

18 years-old is the minimum to be an Only Fans / cam-girl, appear consensually in pornographic videos, or dance naked for tips down at The Pink Pony Club.[/quote]
And you have to be 35 to be president. What does that have to do with beach week?[/quote]

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