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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does anyone here have experience with suspecting a disability in high school?

Signs:
Food aversions (from a very young age)
Refusal to study
Struggles with social anxiety in certain situations 
Avoidance of daily living tasks

The kid is obviously very bright so none of this came out until TJ is now pushing academic limits. Kid masks very very well. Appears very social, no problem making friends.

Where do you start with testing? Do I ask the school?[/quote]

Perhaps transfer your kid back to their home school.  Running people close to the upper bounds of their coping ability is a poor choice.

To succeed long term, people have to enjoy life, school, work enough to find meaning in going forward.

This may not be a question of what diagnosis your child may have.  It may be about whether they are in the right environment to foster their growth.[/quote]

Kid is actually doing fine academically, but the signs I mentioned are not improving despite attempting many at home techniques and hiring an executive coach. Sending back to the home school will allow the behaviors to continue. [/quote]

Also adding that kid expressed that they would not be opposed to testing and also felt that ADHD might be an issue, but after recognizing kid was the only one in a big group to not eat a very popular food. It sort of dawned on me this behavior is pretty outside the norm.[/quote]

“doesn’t like tacos” is not a DSM criteria for any disorder. Any DSM diagnosis is supposed to pose a significant clinical challenge in their life. What is the significant issue here? [/quote]

Tacos is about the only thing the kid eats. There are 3 or so items the kid eats from specific brands and usually it's repeatedly for years on end. As a young child it was one kind of Mac and cheese for about 3 years. These days it's plain burgers. We can't go to random restaurants. Kid will not eat the food.

I have to give kid at least a weeks notice regarding schedule changes. Used to be a few days and expanded to a week after a recent incident that I took kid to a new activity with several days notice. Kid enjoyed activity but that was the new demand.

Kid will not brush teeth or face despite complaining about acne. Usually doesn't shower more than once a week despite being involved in daily athletics. When asked kid will lie or refuse. Prefers lies to refusal. [/quote]

Natural consequences. Kid can be hungry. Kid can have acne.

As for the schedule stuff it seems like you are too sensitive to him. So he complains that you decided to change weekend plans on Wednesday. Ignore. Alternatively he can just stay home if he doesn’t want to go - again natural consequences.

if HE is bringing up any of this stuff as causing him distress then sure, look into more ways to support him. [/quote]

Ignore this poster, they have no idea how disability works. [/quote]

sure I do. IF the child actually has a disability then the goal is to move towards functionality and independence and that includes natural consequences. There is no medication that makes a kid brush their teeth but there are behavioral methods that OP can access now regardless of any diagnosis. She’s describing an infective parenting style where she expects much but gives no support. [b]People seem to believe there is some magic in labeling a kid as “neurodivergent” that actually produces some kind of tangible result. sorry no, does not work that way.[/b] [/quote]

Nobody thinks that. But I do believe understanding how a kid's brain works helps parents and providers to better support them, and helps the kid understand themselves. Many neurodivergent people find that embracing their neurodivergence is extremely helpful and in some cases literally lifesaving. But I guess you think they are just that stupid because you are a POS.[/quote]

Well, OP wasn’t being truthful about what is actually happening. And I stand by what I said. As a parent you have to do a lot more than just get your kid a label; and the label doesn’t actually do anything in and of itself. But it’s much easier to believe a fairytale that the kid will identify with being “neurodivergent” and somehow that solves everything; than doing the hard work of finding what works for you kid (and examining your own issues as a parent). [/quote]

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