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[quote=Anonymous]Being an active an engaged partner while dating is very different than being an active and engaged partner to the mother of your children once married with kids and a wife who is aging and performing the role of motherhood.

Many men lose interest in their wives after they become moms. They can become resentful of the time and energy invested in the kids, or even sometimes jealous of the love and affection their wives give the children. They can also mourn the pre-kids version of their wives and (childishly, I believe) believe they are being unfairly deprived of that woman. They can also resent the way age and children complicate lives, and especially if also dealing with increased responsibility at work, simply nope out on participating in their families in a meaningful way because it's hard.

Divorcing a woman your own age and discovering you enjoy going on dates with a woman 10 years younger who doesn't have kids will not address any of these issues. Please don't marry (and definitely don't have kids) with another woman until you've figured out if you are willing to grow up and not fall into the pitfalls above.

Some men are simply not cut out for being husbands to mothers.[/quote]

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